Mummies Whose Mummies Can’t Be With Them.

Recently I have been working with two mummies who’s own mummies have not been able to be with them due to Covid19 travel restrictions. The plan for their post natal time has had to change.

So what can mummies do? At this time you will need to rely on your friends, colleagues and more distant relatives, if they are close by, as well as on your partner. When people call to congratulate you or ask how things are going with your new baby, tell them of some of the difficulties you are experiencing. Don’t be afraid to share how you are feeling.

Most people are kind and understanding and offers of meals, help around your home or babysitting while you rest will come. Take them up on their offers. Don’t worry if the house is a mess when they arrive or if you are in your dressing gown.

I remember a friend coming to see me and my daughter when she was 6 weeks old. I hadn’t managed to quite get dressed – the top half of me was dressed but I was still in my pyjama pants. She brought morning tea for this hungry mummy. I dusted the lounge room and we chatted while she looked after my baby and her toddler. It hadn’t been dusted for 6 weeks!

Share your struggles and sadness and say yes to offers of help and support. Sometimes it comes not from those you think might help but other kind souls who care enough to give.

Mummy Mummy provides help to post-natal mummies. Reach out through my contact form or phone if you would like to learn more. Maud.

When The Mummy is Sick.

I remember being really sick with mastitis when my daughter was small.  I lay on the floor next to her, crying while she played.  I was a single mummy, my family were interstate, my friends were at work or had their own children to care for.  I had no one to look after me.

What I wanted was for someone to go to the shop to get me orange juice and more panadol.  And to take me to the doctor.  And to tuck me into bed. And to make me soup.  And to say caring words to me.  And most of all to take care of my daughter……so I didn’t have to. 

I wanted to go to bed and have no responsibilities so I could get well again.  And I wanted to feel cared for.

As mummies we care for others.  A lot.  Seven days a week.  When we are feeling vulnerable we are the ones who need to be cared for, so we can be well enough to care for our families.  And that’s ok.

There is nothing wrong with needing care; with not being able to do it all, or not wanting to.  To want to be cared for.  To need a break so we can stop caring for everyone else and allow ourselves to rest and get well.  

We need a village, a community, a mother for the mother.  This way we are still caring.  We are caring for ourselves because do you know what – we matter, we need it and we deserve it.

What I provide is a personal service helping you and your family.  Let’s chat.  My rates are really reasonable.      Maud. Ph: 0422 903 061.